Vaginismus is a problem suffered by women who have difficult to enjoy sex without pain. If you feel pain during intercourse, possibly due to a physical problem: infection, latex allergy, inflammation for some reason, rough masturbation, etc ... but after making an examination by a health professional, it is found that there is no physical reason to produce vaginismus, one must ask if there are emotional reasons that we are creating this problem.
There are many psychological reasons that can end vaginismus, and all have a common origin, fear: Fear of a possible pregnancy, fear of pain, fear of a repeat or remember a traumatic situation, insecurity or fear of not being liked, etc ... another less obvious fear and cover up with reasons is the fear of not meeting the standards imposed on us. This is called guilt and occurs in very restrictive families in extremely repressive sexist or religious societies. But you have to remove the blame when something unfair because we can enjoy our body and pleasure ... in fact, intercourse has many benefits for our body keeps you younger you produce the happy hormones, your skin and hair taking a healthier color, you relieve stress, prevent heart disease, oxygenates the body, etc. ... alfo that brings many benefits can not be bad.
Fear has the ability to "close" our bodies, in every way, but in this particular case, produces the contraction of the vaginal walls and lack of lubrication. If the vaginal walls contract, the penetration will cause pain.
The first step to overcoming vaginismus when caused by emotional causes, is to talk with your partner. You need to be aware of your insecurities. There is a saying that when you share the joys are multiplied by two, and penalties are split in half. And it is true that the first thing to do is take it out on the closest person. Once taken this step, you will see that you've taken a great weight off and from that moment everything will start to get better.